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What keeps you going when times are tough?

Posted by on Jun 22, 2017 in Resilience | 0 comments

This month it’s all about perseverance and grit:

What keeps you going when times are tough and work isn’t going so well or it just feels like you are ‘wading through treacle’? Your progress seems inordinately slow and you might even wonder if you are in fact moving backward.

I know for me, there is a certain stubbornness in my nature, (I don’t always want to admit I might be on the wrong track).

There is a certain level of ‘grit’, in my makeup and I also know that there are times when I need to get my head down, put the work in and just keep going.

Sometimes the break through comes at the moment you least expect it,  the ‘darkest hour is just before the dawn’- Thomas Fuller.

How many people have given up just at the point they were about to reach their ‘breakthrough’?

So, how might you be able to encourage and support yourself when times are tough?

All about perseverance and grit this month.

To find out more visit this month’s post on careerresilience

Hope you enjoy.

What happens when someone asks for our help?….

Posted by on May 24, 2017 in Uncategorized | 0 comments

First wrote about kindness in the workplace, last October  and have been prompted to write again as I have observed that increasingly people are sharing their vulnerability or simply just asking for help, on the LinkedIn platform.

Have been fascinated by the reactions and responses to these posts, which in general have ranged from the encouraging, ‘keep at it. Don’t give up’; through to signposting to helpful information, right through to offers of practical help.

All of which, from what I can see has been gratefully received, but it has made me reflect on how we might respond when faced with a direct request for help.

What options are available to us and how do we decide how involved to become?

Being kind and what that means.

To find out more please click here

Until next time…

Janice Taylor

Time for a new chapter? …………Part One

Posted by on May 10, 2017 in Uncategorized | 0 comments

What comes to mind as the season of Spring approaches. Is it time to take stock and ‘tinker’ or take stock and start a completely new chapter?

As the new season approaches, I find it comes with a surge of energy and new possibilities. So with all this in mind, I’d like to share with you, a model that I have used extensively with groups and individual clients for some years now:

The Hudson Renewal Cycle ………….

Renewal and change

A model, I believe to be highly effective in helping people to take stock of where they are when thinking about their career and life in general.

Something that people seem to grasp straight away and ‘hang their coat’ on. It makes immediate sense to them as they remember those times when they have been operating at their best and in a non-threatening way recognise and accept those times when they have not.

The Renewal Cycle model as conceived by Frederic Hudson describes our lives in terms of chapters each with four phases:

  • Heroic: or ‘go for it’
  •  Disillusioned or ‘stuck in the doldrums’
  • Reflective or ‘looking inward’
  •  Revitalised or ‘taking on/moving forward‘

It can relate to any aspect of our lives, but I use it primarily in relation to careers and how we move through each phase and onto a new chapter will be different for every single one of us.

Heroic Phase

Phase one, or Heroic phase is a great place to be. In this phase we feel positive about our situation we feel that we are exactly in the right place at the right time. This is our moment. We have the energy we need to meet whatever challenges we face and we seek out new opportunities and new avenues to explore.

This is a phase where we are proactive and energized, focused and clear about where we are and where we want to be. We are likely to feel confident about our abilities and confident in what the future holds.

It may be that we find ourselves in Heroic, after settling into a new job or gaining a new promotion. Or we have made a complete career change to something that we have always dreamt of doing. Indeed we may find ourselves in Heroic after leaving work and deciding to live our lives in a completely different way.

So, what can happen to move us from ‘Heroic’ to Disillusioned?

Well sometimes we can become complacent, we become too comfortable, stop stretching and pushing ourselves – we might even over a period time just become bored.

Or perhaps in our enthusiasm we start taking on too much and almost without realising it we move towards ‘overload’.

There may also be external changes that impact on how we see our careers, such as a change in management or organisational culture. Or even a small change in our role might be enough to shift us across to Disillusioned.

Disillusioned Phase

The Disillusioned phase is clearly not such a great place to be. Here we are likely to feel unhappy and negative about our career and feel that there is little we can do to change it for the better.

This phase is typically characterised by us as individuals knowing what we don’t want, but not being able to clearly articulate what we do want. This phase can be very much about ‘holding on’ and not wanting to let anything go, even the unhelpful stuff.

However I do get the odd wry smile from clients and participants when I point out that this phase can be curiously ‘comfortable’ as it’ is a known entity, something familiar even if it’s not great.

Disillusioned is a reactive, holding on phase, we are certainly not pushing forward, we are likely ‘huddled up’, waiting for it all to go away.

Luckily most of us will reach a point where even we get tired of living in this phase. We will have grown weary of hearing ourselves constantly repeating the same litany of negatives again and again.

So we start to make a series of small improvements. Things like changes to our working hours, routes to work, we might even take on new hobbies and training courses and in the short term we find that we zip back to ‘Heroic’ at least for a while. This is what Hudson refers to as a ‘mini transition’.

This approach may work for quite some time with individuals ‘zipping’ back and forth, between Heroic and Disillusioned after each adjustment. But at some point, we may again start to notice a pattern and start to realise that perhaps a more fundamental and long lasting change is needed.

At this point we may then start to look ‘inward’ and start asking themselves, ‘what do I really want and what really matters to me at this time?’ We then move into the third stage of Reflective.

Which is where I will pick up next time………………………………….

Janice Taylor

Energy, engagement and enjoyment.. part two

Posted by on Apr 20, 2017 in Uncategorized | 0 comments

This month’s post from careerresilience:

Part one originally was originally published in October 2015 , so time I think to return to this topic and consider more deeply what might lie behind someone having attained a high level of skill in their field and yet experience little or no joy in applying it.

A couple of things spring to mind regarding this:

I wonder about ‘profound boredom’ and how people might reach this point. Is it just about the loss of excitement, fun and interest, they had in the early days?

And what does it mean to be ‘profoundly bored’, regardless of the root cause?

Energy, engagement and enjoyment

This month’s post from careerresilience.

To read the article in full, please click here

Be your own Rainbow…. How to Thrive

Posted by on Apr 8, 2017 in Uncategorized | 0 comments

Be your own rainbow

How to thrive when you just don’t feel like it.

This is the working title that emerged after completing, Alison Jones’ 10 day book proposal writing challenge. A real joy to complete and one that moved me from a few vague ideas to a written proposal. A written proposal with a clear structure, chapter headings, author background and target market.

In fact I was so excited by it that I made a video:

My plan now is to continue on with writing at least a couple of chapters, before starting Alison’s next challenge in June. Pleased as punch to have created my proposal, but at this stage it still needs a bit more work to refine and clarify.

In any case Be your own rainbow, will be aimed at women in their fifties who are determined to thrive and make the very most of the life they have.

Until next time

Janice Taylor

 

Bold and ‘Badass’ or Fierce and Free…….

Posted by on Mar 13, 2017 in Uncategorized | 0 comments

How would you use to describe your ‘inner Diva’?

I recently came across Jackie Huba’s TedTalk; ‘Unleash the power of your inner drag queen’, in which she describes the events that led her to becoming a ‘drag queen’ and the impact it had on her career and her life.

It’s all about self-belief…

To find out more take a look at this month’s post from careerresilience

 

 

 

Self-care …how well are you looking after yourself?

Posted by on Feb 21, 2017 in Uncategorized | 0 comments

This month, it’s all about looking after yourself. Making sure you are taking the time you need to either completely rest and recharge. Or taking the time you need to learn and train.

Being fully absent so you can be fully present.

So this month, I am sharing a post I originally published on LinkedIn. It’s all about making sure we invest our time in our rest and learning as well as in our work and life. To read the post in full, please click here

 

Is is always just about self-confidence?

Posted by on Jan 31, 2017 in Uncategorized | 0 comments

What does it really take to thrive and flourish, in today’s world?

This month, it’s all about, self-confidence and how it might be related to our self-esteem and self-concept.  I believe that we might well need all three to be strong and well nourished if we are to really thrive.

Careerresilience Jan 2 2017

Here is an extract from this month’s careerresilience….

Some years ago, now, I was fortunate enough to complete a coaching qualification, part of which included my project, ‘coaching for resilience’.

I encountered a lot of ‘Ah Hah’ moments whilst working through this project, and I always promised myself that I would return to it and move it ‘forward’ in some way.

Not quite sure where the time has gone, but in today’s blog I’d like to focus and build on one aspect of that project, one that is referred to by Siebert, (2005, P73) as the core of resiliency:

The three, ‘self’s, 

  • Self -confidence – our belief in our ability to take effective actions, our belief in how well we do things.…
  • Self -esteem – the feelings we develop about ourselves. Our emotional opinion of ourselves
  • Self -concept– the thoughts we develop about ourselves and who we (think) we are

Click here to read the rest from this month’s careerresilience.

Ditching the New Year Resolutions………..

Posted by on Jan 15, 2017 in Uncategorized | 0 comments

I have never really been a big fan of New Year resolutions, even when I did try to make a few. Like so many of us I generally start out full of good intention and enthusiasm in early January and by the end of the month, it is largely all gone.

However, for this year, I’d like to give them another go, but with a bit of a ‘twist’. Borrowing an idea from Phil Jones, I have been following his ‘Magic Months’ programme for network marketers for a few months now and his ‘Traffic light’ system for monthly review and reflection is simple to apply and elegant.

Ditching the New Year Resolutions

I’ve just scaled it up a bit so it applies to the whole year so, for 2016/2017:

  • What do you want to leave behind in 2016? – Red
  • What do you want to take forward with you into 2017? – Amber
  • What new thing do you want to start in 2017? – Green 

In addressing these questions for myself, for 2016/2017 I am finding it helpful to link them to a few of my favourite quotes. My intention for 2017, is to ‘internalise’ these so they are always with me, helping to keep me on track. A bit like a ‘personal compass‘. Each one resonates with me emotionally, and that’s why I think they will serve me well.

So click here, if you want to read the rest on my latest LinkedIn post….

Brains in your head, feet in your shoes……

Posted by on Nov 30, 2016 in Uncategorized | 0 comments

It’s all about getting out and about this month and how regular time out in nature can boost our creativity, health and general feeling of well-being.

The title is from the wonderful Dr Seuss: –

“You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself any direction you choose.”

With these wonderfully wise words available to us and all the mobile technology at our ‘finger tips’, why do we spend so much of our time ‘glued’ to our desks or the same work spaces?

In a time of mobile phones, tablets, lap tops and Wi-Fi, 3G, 4G and 5G, why are we so immobile? Particularly with the greatest piece of mobile equipment, that we all have access to, that predates all others, ‘our brains’.

Where ‘we go, they go’ and they generally benefit most from a change of scene, pace and perspective. Everything else, probably doesn’t really care…

Brains in your head, feet in your shoes..

I was reminded of the Dr Seuss quote by Jill Suttie’s article:

How nature Boosts Kindness, Happiness, and Creativity

“We are spending more time indoors and online. But recent studies suggest that nature can help our brains and bodies to stay healthy”

To read the Jill’s article, please visit.

http://www.mindful.org/how-nature-boosts-kindness-happiness-and-creativity/

It also caught my eye as I have very recently, published a post on kindness in the workplace, and the difference it can make. So, I am intrigued by anything that has the potential to boost levels of kindness and compassion.

https://careerresilience.wordpress.com/2016/10/27/how-much-loving-kindness-is-there-in-the-workplace-today/

So if you are interested in reading on, do visit:

https://careerresilience.wordpress.com/2016/11/30/brains-in-your-head-feet-in-your-shoes/

Until next time

Janice Taylor